Hello, hello, it's been a hot minute since I posted on here and that is due to the mother of all doses of writers blocks. I'm in a strange place with my blog and sometimes with other aspects of my work too, where I lack confidence and feel my good ole friend imposter syndrome kicking in again.
I keep telling myself that it always tends to happen at this time of year and that it is A-Okay to sit back, to recoup, re-centre myself and to go easy on myself until it passes. Yet, here I am moaning about it to you... But sometimes it's nice to write down one's woes, to get it off my chest and out of my head in the hope that I can move on, get over it and stop being so god damn silly.
It's always the same way at the beginning of a new year, however, I think when there is a baby in the mix and with me only working two days a week, self doubt can creep in. I'm regularly having feelings of irrelevance, feeling "passed it" and sometimes feeling completely lost with what I want to create, to share and essentially what it is you would like to see.
Video content is on the rise, or so the industry likes to tell us, and finding my groove amongst the cool kids is proving difficult, I would love to know what you would like to see over here, on TikTok and of course on Instagram and Reels too.
I've been writing on this little slice of internet for 9 years (bonkers) so a little self doubt and perhaps a change of direction or two (or three or four) is bound to happen in such a long time. It would mean so much to hear from some of you, whether that be here in the comments section, directly in my emails or in my Instagram DM's as to what you do and don't love about my content and where you would like to see me go next, together with you. Thank you all for being such a great community and thanks in advance for any advice, ideas or ~constructive~ criticism you might have for me.
x M
I really enjoyed your ‘Welcome to my Wardobe’ series on IGTV, and I really enjoyed your personality shining through verbally as well as just seeing static images. I know you left YouTube because of negative comments, but I think a lot of people who have followed you on Instagram for a number of years miss that chattiness and relatability from your video content. I also used to love your trend videos and wishlist at the start of each season, used to help me so much when thinking about what to invest in/how to style up existing pieces in new ways.
Hey Emily, thanks so much for the great feedback, it means a lot. I’m hoping that me chatting a little more over on TikTok my bridge the gap that was left when I decided to step away from YouTube? Now we have much lighter mornings and evenings I’m hoping to really get stuck into video content again.
Noted on Welcome to My Wardrobe, Trend videos and Wishlist’s at the beginning of each season, perhaps some of those could work nicely over on my blog? Or is particularly video content you’re after?
Thanks M x
I really miss your chatty everyday content. I know YouTube is out of the question for you but that is what I miss the most in all honesty. Totally support your reasons for being off that platform but if there were a way to bring in that chatty, everyday life aspect into your content l would personally love that.
Thanks so much for your feedback Catherine. Hoping to find my groove with video content some more, whether that be on Reels or TikTok xx
Hi Megan!
Really agree with the comments that talk about missing your chatty-ness and personality coming through from Youtube the most. I followed you in the beginning for your style and flare which felt totally different to everything else I was seeing at the time, but definitely stayed for you! Personally I don’t use TikTok due to the data privacy concerns but absolutely hate to think I’m missing out on the content I love over there; I even contemplated making up a throw-away email address just to follow you haha. So please post more to Instagram/here!
I did keep coming back to your Youtube videos as they were truly a happy place for me. Just a thought… I also follow sunbeamsjess and she is looking into setting up a Patreon/subscription type model for her book content. That means that those that are really interested in following along with her can pay to support her in doing so and it protects her privacy somewhat and makes the following feel more intimate and personal too. I know it’s a bit left field but would you consider coming back to Youtube/more video content elsewhere in this way? I would 100% pay for that.
Similarly to Shoshannah, I regularly check out this blog for your wishlist & wardrobe updates in particular so I love that, and agree with what was said about continuing to lean into what you’ve been doing and taking us through your processes.
Still rooting for you, including via Saturday and wish you all the happiness in finding joy at work (and outside!).
Jordan
Oh also all of Louise’s comment rings so true for me!! Don’t really mind what you put out there at all, just interested and love following along with you! xoxo
SUCH interesting points and all have been taken on board! Thank you so very much Jordan, it means a lot to have your thoughts x
I love your blog and have done for so many years. I associate you with long form content ie blog posts rather than the reels and all that jazz. I like checking in here and finding new posts and watching your IG stories. Being a Liverpool girl I use you as a temperature check, i.e is it still coat weather, and looking for actual real everyday outfits! I also love the homeware content too! Ruth x
Ohh Ruth, such lovely feedback, thank you! Taking it all on board for sure! I miss writing longer blog posts and it’s great to hear that you enjoy them, so I’ll deffo set to work on these asap xx
I loved your perspective on current trends & then shopping your own wardrobe. I found you through YouTube and like so many others thoroughly enjoyed your fashion and home interiors. Your sense of style truly inspires me & I am constantly coming back to your blog for the ‘inner workings’ of your brain. From your own brand to your wish lists and wardrobe I love the fun & color you incorporate through your fashion. I think continue to lean into what you’ve been doing, take us through your processes. In one of your recent blog posts you wrote how you put together an outfit – though I enjoyed it I wanted more. As you hinted, videos in the form reals on Instagram would be great to see you building an outfit or maybe blog posts that again walk us through what’s going through your head when you pair what with what. A closer inside look at your brand would also be amazing as well – I just know people would love to see it. Hope I added to the conversation. Thanks for sharing with us Megan💞
You certainly did add to the conversation! Thank you so much for the gorge feedback, it’s SO helpful and I’ll definitely set to work on some wishlist blog posts, along with outfit building via videos and longer blog posts. Thanks so much for everything x
I understand why you stepped back from Youtube but it’s definitely what I miss most tbh. The casualness of it, your upcoming purchases videos and what you’d just bought. Your personality shone through it. Reels and IGTVS feel too quick and the link sharing isn’t as good. If it was the comments which weren’t something you felt comfortable with on YouTube , could you disable comments ?
Thanks for your feedback Holly really means a lot. Tbh it wasn’t the comments, more the fact that people used what I shared against me to create a completely different narrative. Essentially make up a load of rubbish and lies. It got to the point where it didn’t make sense for me to share anymore when the truth of what I was sharing was being completely warped by others. I feel much better for it but understand that my videos are missed by some. I do hope that what I will start to share over on TikTok and Reels may bridge that gap and I hope to incorporate some of my YouTube videos into written form here, such as trend chat, wishlists etc. x
I love the look sweetie!
Danielle | thereluctantblogger.co.uk
It would be great to see more lifestyle content across your channels 🙂 More day-in-the-life type content, mum life, homeware etc. And more blog posts please! Love your long form content xo
Thank you Elizabeth, great points and I’ll definitely try to find my groove with sharing more day-in-the-life style snippets soon x
Hi Megan! Really miss your YT, I don’t know how many times I’ve re-watched some of your videos as they really did stand the test of time and were refreshing as hell in dull times (nothing like POP of Megan Ellaby colour to liven up some inspo!) – very sad you took them all down. I don’t know all the ins and outs of why – but please know that you are a beautiful, funny and very relatable little chickie Megan and your best content is always when you let all those sides shine through – which for me is in video format 100%. So whatever platform works best for you, go for it girl – but I think we’d all love to see you back chatting to us about whatever you want… fashion, home, hair, camper van plans, baby stuff – whatever! Just YOU babe!! Lxxx
Probably something to do with the fact that George is a sex pest/all round leech
Why are you even on here??? gtfoh
Oh here we go. Go on, enlighten me…
Are you aware of the fact that there is a gossip page online that states evidence that George has sexually assaulted women in the past? Called Tattle.
Hey, yeah, sadly I am.
Although I haven’t visited the site in a few years. As you said, it’s a “gossip” page aka a page full of lies from sad people who have nothing better to do with their lives than to obsess over others and manipulate the truth into something that makes them feel better about themselves 🙂 A website full of very sad people, which is a shame.
Also, perhaps next time, you shouldn’t bring this kind of thing to someones attention, just in case they are unaware of such a site. Plus, if they are, they might not want to be reminded of such negativity.
Thanks
Oh Louise this is the lil pat on the back that I actually really need today, thank you! I have taken all your points on board and hope to get creating and chatting asap! Thank you xx
In all honesty, as a long time follower your content now just seems predictable and repetitive, a constant cycle of radio silence for days and days followed by a Q&A on Instagram to boost engagement and then that is always swiftly followed by a paid AD and then the cycle repeats over and over again. As well as this all of the items you tag are shockingly expensive and unattainable to the average person, this is a far cry from the high street bits you used to share some of which I have actually got inspiration from and have bought myself on many occasions. It feels as though there is nothing being given back and that your platform is just being used as a way of making income as oppose to it being a passion, which is sad as I used to adore everything you posted. This is just my honest opinion of the back of you looking for advise in terms of direction.
Hey Nora, thanks so much for your honest feedback, it really does mean a lot. I’m sad to hear you think my content can be repetitive, and tbh this is something I’ve worried about for some time, since having a baby and trying to find my groove with working only two days a week. The radio silence I get, but again it’s being a mum for the majority of the week and being totally focused on her. I thought that would be something you might be able to understand? But I will try and do better, but sadly can’t promise on that front as she is my focus, always!
With regards to AD work, I mean, this is my job, so I don’t know what you expect here? And I’m sorry you think that the pieces I do share are unattainable, but I do always wear my more expensive pieces with high street items, if you take a look at every Instagram outfit post, you’ll see this clearly. I love high street fashion but admittedly have stopped shopping from there as much, as I try and shop smarter and better.
I can assure you that I adore my job, it is a huge passion of mine and I put my all into everything I do. I guess I just need to find a better way of balancing two businesses, my passions, my homelife/social life and being a mum.
Sorry to have let you down but thanks so much for your feedback, it’s appreciated x
Hi Megan,
Firstly, I’ve been reading your blog probably for over five/six years now. I love the longer posts you write! I’d especially love some content on the renovations of your camper van/home renovations/travel 🙂 and basically anything you write, I’ll read!
As for ‘radio silence’, yeah of course regular content to read is great, but I would rather quality over quantity and can understand you’re juggling quite a lot of things all at once. Also, can we all just normalise not being a machine, but a human being ?
I also loved your youtube videos, but like a lot before me have said, can understand it’s out of the picture. Maybe some reels or chatty stories on Instagram ? 🙂
Take care xxx
Joss
Thank you Joss! Means a lot! I too would rather see quality over quantity, so I’m really glad were on the same page there! And HELL YES TO NOT BEING A MACHINE!!! Phew, so glad someone said it haha.
xxx
Hello! I agree and think that the chattiness of your old content was interesting and fun, loved the house instagram and the affordability of what you were purchasing. I understand you moving into a direction of making ‘smarter’ choices in terms of clothing but the price tag on these is so unaffordable for me that I just don’t find it relatable anymore. Working only two days a week is also a really small amount of time, especially when you’re not just doing instagram/blogging/business so I think this must be quite difficult to manage and can’t even see how you’d begin to do it! Also baby is always top priority which is totally understandable 🙂
I understand you not wanting to have your personal life online but I think a lot of people follow it for your daily life/home/family as well as the fashion and I do notice that you post really infrequently on insta which means you don’t even pop up for me that much anymore. You shouldn’t be expected to share all areas of your life at all but sometimes when most (almost all) of what you share is perfect, expensive, gifted and unattainable it isn’t always something people find relatable or personal.
I also think the ads are too much (I realise this is your income) but it almost feels like everything is an ad and as much as you are promoting a brand you love (hopefully) it feels a bit forced and it isn’t very personal. Maybe more of a balance between things you really love, small businesses/brands as well?
I hope this doesn’t come across as harsh as it really isn’t meant to but I always found that your instagram was quite fun and light hearted whereas now it is clear that its just a revenue stream and very impersonal.
Maybe some shorter chatty videos, some home bits, places to go/visit, and more affordable fashion would be fab to see. X
Thanks so much for such interesting points. Means a lot to have your point of view in the mix. x
Hello lovely,
bit late to the party here but just want to say I think you are bloody fabulous and just keep doing you. Don’t let anything stop you! Also, rest is productive and you absolutely deserve that, we all do. More chatting is always welcome but only if you want to do that. Personally I still find great inspo in your style and I don’t actually need that every day! all the best lovely, Holly x
Thank you Holly, truly means the world. Thank you soso much xx
Hello Megan!
I really miss your YouTube channel. I re-wached you great vlogs many times. Your vidios are full inspiration and positive and style of course. I respect your position don’t do vlogs anymore and delete channel, but it really made me happy and helped to relax.
Fashion/outfit advice and tips rather than just outfit pics. Either video or blog whatever you prefer but more than just pictures and ads would be good. I also always check your wish list for inspo as we have similar style, and used to love your trend videos, so more of that! But don’t mind video or blog
Thanks Nic <3 x
YOU DO YOU!!! Share what you personally feel you can and what you feel passionate about. You doing what makes you happy will come across so much more genuine as apposed to what other people say they would like to see from you. I loved your YouTube videos but completely understand why you don’t do these anymore and in terms of fashion I feel the lockdowns have played a huge part in everyone feeling disengaged with this and we didn’t care what we were wearing so bring on the summer when we can all feel good and be more experimental with our fashion again after living in leggings for far too long. A lot has changed for you since having Goldie too and priorities change so just go with it and don’t put too much pressure on yourself to please others ❤️
THIS IS JUST SUCH A GORGE COMMENT TO READ ON A TUESDAY MORNING! Thank you Amy, means the absolute world! Thank you for your support and lovely words of encouragement xxxx
I’ve been a long time subscriber and fan. I think your content has been great. I don’t have tik tok so I do miss out on that side of content. I have been loving all the baby inspo and just in general all you post. I would like some more come shopping with me and raiding wardrobe video’s/ mini vlogs :). You’re outfits, as ever, have been super inspirational when trying to style. Just stick to what feels natural and authentic, I think that’s why we’re all here, to see Megan Ellaby be Megan Ellaby.
Hey Megan, I’ve been following your content ever since the Asos days and truly loved your take on all things vintage and retro. So I guess, that’s what I miss: the different-from-instagram-trendy outfits that lean more towards a 60s and 70s style – like the orange Zara co-ord or the Topshop denim dress you wore recently. I always found you paired these kinds of pieces so well with contemporary style.
I just don’t feel as inspired by this new aesthetic of “eclectic influencer” that’s been going around, because everyone seems to be doing just that. And while I think it’s totally fair that your style has evolved and you are more into quality over quantity, maybe try showing us affordable “dupes”.
As I said, if retro vibes just aren’t your thing anymore, I totally respect that. But if you feel like you have to cater towards a more trendy style, DON’T 🙂 That’s what made you so special in the first place.
xx