Why hello there my loves, I hope you’re all doing well and settling into 2020 nicely.
Look at me posting on a Sunday ey, something I’m going to try and keep up with throughout 2020 as I put more love, time and effort into my beloved blog.
The topic of change has been on my mind for quite some time and I thought it would make for quite the interesting blog post, or at least I hope it will.
Change is inevitable, particular as we navigate our twenties and move into our thirties; it’s something that we all go through sometimes for the worst but often for the better.
But the statement “You’ve changed” is seen as a negative, it’s an insult that means “I preferred the old you” and it’s a statement I’ve had thrown at me a couple of times as of late and it’s something I wanted to explore a little further and to hear your thoughts on in the comments below.
Change is something we all go through and experience quite often throughout life. Whether it’s change in a personal growth sense, a change of scenery, of finances, career changes or something different entirely. Change happens and it’s important for us to embrace it.
But it’s change in a general sense that I want to discuss today as I for one have changed a heck load in the past 8 years (WTF!) since I began this little slice of internet.
I’ve changed in so many ways whether thats the transition from student to intern to my first job. A change of scenery as I moved from Huddersfield to London and then back to Manchester. A change in relationship from BF & GF to fiancé's. And changing from renting a flat to becoming homeowners.
Some pretty huge changes have happened over the past 8 years, changes I am extremely proud of and changes I’m sure many of you can relate to in some respect.
With all those life changes of course comes personal changes. My priorities are certainly different and I think it’s really rather normal for your personal preferences and taste to change whether thats with your personal style, your taste in music and/or your general outlook in life.
And you know what, thats OKAY! In fact, thats bloody great! If I was in the same place and the same person I was even just a couple of years ago let alone 4 or 8 years ago I’d be pretty depressed at the matter.
Coat- GANNI (similar here), Necklace- MY NAME NECKLACE, Jumper- c/o RALPH LAUREN, Jeans- URBAN OUTFITTERS, Bag- SHRIMPS c/o COGGLES (similar here), BOOTS- c/o ESSENTIEL ANTWERP
So why is the term “You’ve changed” thrown around so much in such a negative way? I can only speak from experience and my experience is being online, but if I had a pound for every time someone commented on the fact that I’ve changed or my content has changed or God forbid my hair has changed I would be quite the wealthy young gal.
Of course I’ve changed, I’m 27 now, I was 19 when I started my blog and I was at university. I’m now the owner of two successful businesses, I own my own home, have two little angel dogs to think about and I’m in a super happy and loving relationship with a wedding to plan. My priorities have of course changed; instead of going out whenever I want and staying out for as long as I want, I now have to consider my dogs, the way I would if I had children. I want to talk about interiors and the new cutlery set I got for Christmas rather than what I picked up in Primark last Saturday. And I want to share more considered purchases from time to time that may be of a higher price point which I wouldn’t have been able to afford back when I began on this blogging journey but now, after a lot of hard work I can and I’m so proud of that.
And more recently I’ve come under fire (hyperbole is my friend…) due to my style having changed. For me thats the beauty of personal style, it changes depending on my mood, depending on what I’m into and especially depending on my age.
Over the past two years I’ve become more educated on a whole host of things therefore the rainbow striped trousers that were “so on brand for me” back in 2016 but I’d only be able to style up in one or two ways are now off the cards and have been replaced with a classic pair of black tailored trousers that I can wear time and time again, I won’t get bored of and be tempted to donate to charity and yeah they might be a higher price point some times but hey, they’ll last and work well with the more purse friendly pieces I already have in my wardrobe.
So yeah you might not see me in as much clashing colours and prints as you used to, but as I’ve said I’m 27, I’m being more conscious about what I add to my wardrobe and I’m making sure that everything that is added now can be worn time and time again and isn’t just a trend piece or something that is “ Sooo Megan Ellaby”
We all change, and change is good. Let’s embrace change, particularly in each other. So long as we’re not hurting or upsetting anyone with the change in our taste in clothes, lifestyle choices and opinions then in my mind change is good, it’s part of life and totally normal! Let’s stop with the “she’s changed” mentality and instead think about how far they’ve come instead. And hey, if that fails and you simply no longer relate there's always the unfollow button.
But fear not, the rainbow trousers may be no more but the statement bags, pink jeans and glitter boots are here to stay… For now at least.
x M
I bloody love this! 🖤
Your ‘change’ is inspirational! You’ve worked your ass off to build up your life and career. From my point of view, I think that you’ve grown and experienced and your style has transitioned with all of that.. and I love it! You keep doing you!! 💖
Ohhh Sarah thank you so much, that is honestly so lovely x
Change is completely normal and a constant thing. I don’t get why people have to make it sound like such a horrible thing when change (though it can be scary for some!) gives us things to look forward to i.e. a new job or a new home! You do you, Megan! I love seeing your style evolve. ☺️
Thanks for your lovely comment as always Izzy, you’re the best x
This post is everything!! Nothing is constant and we’re all changing. I think it’s super exciting. I’m going through something similar myself with personal style. Such lovely reflections as always, Megan! H xxx
I love how you’ve changed over the last couple of years. I haven’t been following you for eight years, but maybe for two and I still enjoy your blog, videos and posts as much as two years ago ! Keep changing, we love it !!
Thank you so much Kenza, that means so so much <3
‘We fear change’ to quote Wayne’s World ☺️ But it’s the only thing that’s guaranteed in life. Always gonna be there, always gonna happen, and you’ve grown and evolved in such a lovely way and you should be so proud of yourself. If I end up in half as content a place as you are I’ll be well chuffed with myself! And as a late 30s gal myself I really am enjoying your more mature but still unique style xx
Oh babe thanks so much for your gorgeous comment, means a lot and I’m loving that we can all grow up, change and develop together <3
Hi Babe! I think changes sometimes is scaring because is comfy to stay in routine! But when finally you make that change, well you though “why I was so scared?”
For sure there are some changes in worst but I think this is not your case at all!!! You are growing up, with us too! This is beautiful! Luv ya
Xoxo Adriana
Totally agree that certain changes are scary as heck. But personal growth is so good and so normal 🙂
YAY to growing up together, I just love that so much x
It can be a bit scary coming into a more mature version of yourself, especially so publicly, but you’re doing it very gracefully! Your style is still true to you, and I feel that you haven’t lost your edge at all. At the risk of sounding selfish, this transition has come at the perfect time in MY life, and I love that I can still look to you for style inspiration!
As always, I appreciate your honesty and openness. It’s going to be a great year!
I won’t lie there are parts of me that do miss some of your old style pieces and spend half my time scoping them out second hand on depop and rewatching old vlogs but I also love your mature style now and following you how you are now and it lets me fantasise about where I’d like to be in a couple of years when I do reach your age as well as being more planet conscious about purchases. I’ve loved watching your journey as you continue to grow and will always continue to support you as I love everything you do videos, blog posts, Instagram the works. Can’t wait to see what’s next for you xx
First of all…I am absolutely loving your coat, it’s such a great style staple! I completely agree with you that personal style is so changeable depending on your mood and age. If I think back to just a few years ago my style was totally different to how it is now.
Like you I’ve definitely found myself making more considered purchases over the last couple of years and opting for more classic, higher quality pieces that I know will be worth the investment – rather than items that are “sooo Faye” haha.
Something that I’ve always loved is how you style up amazing tailored pieces, so to see you styling them in new ways that reflect yourself is so inspiring. Our styles and tastes grow with us and there’s nothing wrong with that at all!
– Faye | Female Original x
I just think people are uncomfortable with change when it is unrecognizable to them. And change is not a bad thing, its growth! So when someone says to you “you’ve changed” what they are actually saying is “I don’t recognize this” and “I’m uncomfortable with growth that I don’t understand = i don’t want to be left behind”. I think it speaks everything of how they see themselves and actually nothing at all of how they see you…..
Its a shame because the dialogue should be, I can’t wait to see what’s up next. It’s exciting.
You have amazing content and I love your perspective/ aesthetic, as ever evolving as it is. I really do. So keep it moving and don’t let the haters get you down!!
My Mum always says keep changing keep growing and in everything we do in life, upgrade!!
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I completely agree change is a necessity and so often a great thing, it shows growth! I’ve changed so much too, and am super proud of where I am today. I’d be more worried if you had stayed stagnant. Keep smashing it <3
Kathleen / http://www.madeinthe1990s.com
TOTALLY with you on the being more worried if I’d stayed stagnant. Change is fun and I’m so happy to hear you’re proud of where you are right now, thats beautiful x
Looking great Megan!
Which lippie have you got on here? It’s glorious.
Thanks! X
Thanks babe. This is the Nars Orgasm lip balm xx
I am absolutely LOVING this blog content as of late! I’ve found a lot of what you have written to be very inspiring. Even the small stuff like encouraging book reading & time away from our phones or sharing with us that you purchased your last house yourself. You’ve got me (and so many other women) thinking about ways we can do some self improvement and reach for bigger goals too.
Keep smashing it girl. You’re doing great!!
Oh Georgina your comment brought a huge smile to my face, thank you for that! It honestly means so so much that you’re enjoying what I’m sharing! Thank you x
This is such a relatable post! Having recently got married myself, leaving a toxic working atmosphere and due to start a new job – obviously things change, but of course we are all sh**ting it!
But I feel a sense of relief knowing that it’s not just me! 🧡🧡
Oh Shauna, congrats on the big life changes, you’re going to smash it! xxox
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