Dear Megan,
You've just started high school, congrats girl! Don't worry about not having the £20 plastic, zip up school boots the other girls have, your sensible Clarks leather shoes cost your mum a fortune and you'll look back and wish you could wear them now, trust me. From the off, you'll have a hard time at school. Some girls will be mean to you, and you won't deal with it all too well, but please, if you can, stand up to them sooner rather than later, 'cause as soon as you do embarrass them in front of the class, they won't do it anymore. The bullying will make you both strong and weak at the same time, your eyes will still water when you talk about it with family or new friends/boyfriends but it will keep you in good stead for the rest of your life, you will be stronger and you won't take that kind of shit again.
Please Megan, listen to your mum. She knows best, honestly she does. Even when you think she's wrong, your mum is ALWAYS right. Also, please don't lie to your mum. Someway, somehow they always find out, mums are weird like that.
That boy in the year above, he's a bit of a tit. That on again, off again relationship is pretty pathetic, similarly to him. You'll realise that one day but please, dump him before you get hurt!
Once you stood up against the bullies, things get a lot better. A weight is lifted and you begin to express yourself. You discover guitar music and you start to really enjoy screaming vocals, much to your dads dismay. But please Megan, despite what the girls at the screamo gigs do, don't dye one patch of your hair blonde, you know that bit by your overly swept in "sweeping fringe" it's really not a good luck, nor is the backcombing.
Speaking of that sweeping fringe, don't fret about your forehead, yes it is a bit big, and yes they will call you "Foddy", something you like to joke about when your older, but that nickname will allow you to discover a long messy fringe that will become your safety blanket against the world, your signature look that will lead you to amazing things such as featuring in a L'Oreal nationwide campaign on television, in magazines and on billboards at Piccadilly Circus and around the country, yeah really, you have a lot to thank that forehead for.
And although you've had some bad hair cuts and some questionable outfits along the way, it's helped shape the person you are and your personal style today, in 2018. Have fun with your style, experiment with layering, textures, colours and everything in between, you never know, you might make a career out of it one day. Don't follow the crowd, you've never been very good at it.
Speaking of making a career out of fashion, guess what, you did it! So please, when people tell you that studying fashion at university isn't a real degree, please give them the middle finger. Don't pay any attention to them, 'cause it's a bloody hard slog the way any other degree is, but you get there and you actually do pretty damn well from it indeed.
You'll move to London one day, and you'll intern at some of your favourite fashion brands, you'll start an online diary writing about the daily life of a fashion intern and it will somehow develop into a style diary and eventually into a website that people actually read, so do pay attention in English class, older Megan will thank you for it later.
HAT- SACRED HAWK, JACKET- TOMMY HILFIGER (old), JUMPER- c/o TED BAKER, TROUSERS- c/o CORDS & CO, LOAFERS- c/o GH BASS, BAG- c/o THE KOOPLES
And after uni, you'll receive a job offer for your dream job as a Personal Stylist at ASOS, it will be the making of you, so take the leap and make the move to London.
And despite moving down with your boyfriend at the time and sister in tow it will come with it's difficulties as most good things do. You'll need to listen to your head, rather than your heart when things aren't the way they used to be; life really is too short and some things aren't meant to be. But don't worry, no matter how much it hurts and no matter how much it (he) drives you mad, you'll move on, to better things I know.
You'll have lots of fun and you'll work extremely hard to juggle a full time job and your hobby, your blog. You'll become the business woman you've always wanted to be and you'll submerge yourself with all things fashion, something you've wanted since playing fashion designers with Faye when you were little girls.
Faye will be your rock throughout all of this, so keep her close, as I know you do.
You'll meet people who you think are great and you'll give those friendships your all, but unfortunately those people might let you down. There will always be bitching and bullying, even throughout adult life, this time you'll just be better equipped to deal with it. And despite people sometimes letting you down, you will learn, annoyingly only when you reach 25, who your real friends are and what true friendship is. It's not about quantity lets just put it that way.
You'll spend the majority of your teenage years and early adult years fancying the singer of your fave indie band, you'll become friends and stay in touch over Twitter and Facebook, then one day, many years down the line, when the timing is right, you'll both fall in love with one another... SERIOUSLY!
You'll have a whirlwind relationship but one that is different from the rest. You'll feel loved like you've never felt love before and you'll love more than you have ever loved before. You'll move back to Manchester together and you'll buy your first home, something I know you don't think will ever be possible right now. You'll even tick off one of your childhood dreams of getting a sausage dog... Or even two!
So with that younger Megan I ask you to be confident in your choices, whether thats your career, love, style and friendships, just trust your gut girl, it's often always right. Do everything with passion and be kind. Work hard and all your dreams will come true and then some!
Good luck.
x M
*Inspiration for this post came from this amazing piece by Victoria Beckham for Vogue... PLEASE give it a read if you haven't already!*
I loved this Megan! Hindsight is such a wonderful thing, you’ve done bloody amazing ??
Thank you Libby, I’m so glad you enjoyed xo
Megan, this is lovely. I really hope some young people having a hard time at school read this and feel as inspired as I do as a 36 year old woman having a hard time in a job I hate. I hope this inspires everyone to keep going and follow their dream – no matter what age they are xxxxx
Ohhh Jennifer I’m SO sorry that you’re having a tough time at work and I really hope it gets better for you soon and you move on to a job you lurrrrrve.
Lots of love darling xo
Megs this is such a beautiful post. It’s so great that you can recognise your achievements and look back on your past choices knowing that you would get where you wanted to be. I hope that one day I will be able to do the same – I’m not quite there yet! <3
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Oh you will do Isabelle! I adore absolutely everything you do! x
I absolutely loved this post, it is amazing how far you have come. It is so inspiring to read and made me really hope that one day I can reflect on successes of my own that I really hope come true x
Oh babes, I have no doubt that they will come true! You’re so awesome in every sense of the word! xo
I loved this letter. You can be so proud of yourself and everything you have achieved 🙂
Ohh Sandra thank you 🙂 I’m glad you enjoyed xo
Could you please stop boasting about how you have already fawned on George while he was still with Diana!? To use your own words, you are dulling her sparkle with that, that humiliates her in public – everyone else would be ashamed.
You should generally overcome your inner fangirl. You behave more like a personal groupie than like a girlfriend. Just think of your creepy couple q&a: To that comment saying “How cool is it that your boyfriend once dated Emma Watson?” (which is weird enough) you replied with “Pretty cool!” (they were not a couple as they repeatedly told) although you didn’t even bother to remember his own home town (for appparently not the first time, judging from his reaction), which are quite creepy priorities. To the question what you like the most about one another you basically replied that you like how he pays attention to you (in form of being able to come up with nicknames); when he replied to the same question that he likes that you are yourself and unique (in form of that cleaning the make-up brushes thing) you called him a weirdo for that in another comment reply. Because of you he can’t have Biggie back because YOU wanted new “kids” yet all you do is pose with them on Instagram in Paris Hilton style while HE cares for them. Most photos you post of him are of a show-off kind (his car, him topless, him being attractive etc.) while he shows you as a real person.
And don’t tell me to shut up. You’re constantly asking for everyone’s opinions in the comments, but whenever someone dares to say anything but “You are awesome!!!!!!!!!!” you complain in theatralic words about “being bullied” and that they shall leave you alone. (I was bullied at school, and I tell you, it does NOT mean that someone has a different opinion than you.)
I have long been thinking about writing you, and this is only a part of what annoys me, but you probably wouldn’t want to hear more anyway. You probably won’t care about this, either, and keep thinking you were a good role model and wouldn’t send questionable messages. And your disciples will defend you. But I needed to get rid of that one.
First of all, how dare you sit behind your keyboard and tell me things you think you know about our relationship!
You have absolutely no idea about any of it, yet appear to be pretty damn into checking up on us…
I’m totally open to opinions, but you don’t appear to be giving much of an opinion, just speculating about what you think you know about us and our life together.
I’ve never once complained about being bullied online, my bullying came from my time at school and, if you too were bullied, you wouldn’t leave such an awful comment about a life you don’t really know much about.
I don’t need to defend anything about mine and George’s relationship, the people who love us know the truth and most importantly we do, so if you don’t like us/me, then why don’t you kindly stop reading my blog posts, watching my videos and keeping up to date on our Instagram’s it appears to be bringing you absolutely no joy so why put yourself through it?
Because I tend to try hard to like the beloved ones of people I’m a fan of. If I were a celebrity, I would want my fans to like my boyfriend. So I followed you for about a year now, hoping I might change my mind. But yes, I won’t need to do that anymore now that ONO seems to be officially down. I’m not making things up though, I’m referring to what you posted yourself on your own social media.
Ohhhh I seee, you’re a One Night Only fan, it all makes sense now.
Holy jesus so shocked to see such pathetic awfulness!! Ignore those haters, they are jealous & irrelevant Megan and will never get to where you are!! KEEP slaying XO
HAHA I know right! I couldn’t believe how mean she was and how wrong she was about every single point, such a shame people feel the need to be cruel.
But thank you darling, it means a lot to have you here! xx
Elli, asking for everyone’s opinions is not the same as asking for mean comments. That was unnecessary and far from constructive criticism. I think it’s very obvious that they are both very much in love!
Megan, this post was an amazing read! You’re such an inspiration x
Thanks Martine, means a lot darling x
Goodness me, that girl was so unnecessarily mean…what an idiot.
Anyway, I loved this post-it made me cry! We forget sometimes how far we’ve come and it’s great to feel proud of our accomplishments. Well done Megan!
Also, mum’s really are always right aren’t they?!
I know right, I’m utterly gobsmacked with the nonsense she’s just come out with, but hey ho :/
Matildaaaa, I’m so glad you liked the post but please don’t cry. But yes, you’re SO right, we forget how far we’ve come and I never ever give myself credit, always underplaying my successes, so I thought it would be nice to write to myself, similarly to Victoria Beckham in the Vogue post I mentioned and it was so nice to see it written down, I’d totally recommend giving it a whirl.
OMG YES Mum’s are SO weird, they know everything!!
Lots of love honey x
Meg this was so lovely and I also cried (quite a lot) as so much of it resonated with what I would tel my younger self but also my now 22 year old self, especially the part about friendships. Thank you for inspiring me with the words you put out every week, I find so much comfort reading your blog every week even in really crap weeks.
Please ignore those keyboard warriors than have nothing better to do with your time than judge people’s lives from behind a computer screen. You are incredible and always remember that.
Lots of love, jess x
OMG Jessssss, please don’t cry girlie! I’m really glad that my post resonated with you, but goodness don’t get teary or I might… HAHA!
It means a bloody awful lot to hear that you enjoy my posts every single week, thank you darling!
I hope all is going good for you darling!
HAHA keyboard warriors is the best saying EVER! Thanks darling, means so much x
Reading this made me feel proper emosh, because yeah…I think it’s just amazing seeing how much you’ve grown and how much you’ve achieved and you are so humble and genuine about it! You deserve every bit of wonderful success that comes your way! Honestly, fave read of the month by FAR you babe! xx
Ohhh Natasha thank you darling, that means a lot!
I’m so glad you enjoyed reading this post, it was a nice one to write I have to say.
You deserve all the success too girlie girl! xo
Megan,
You never fail to disappoint this is one of my favourite posts you’ve ever written. I’ve been following your blog since the start and luckily met you when you strutted into huddersfield new look where I worked wearing some amazing blue boots and you were so lovely- I’m so glad you’re happy in life in all walks of it cos you deserve it. Bet those bullies are kicking themselves now seeing you on telly bossing life … karma is a bitch 🙂
All my love xx
Ohhh Nicola thank you so much, I’m thrilled to hear you enjoyed this post! OMG I totally remember that! How weird! I’m buzzing that you read my blog… HIIIIIIIII!
xx
I love this! It’s just what I needed to read! I was bullied horribly when i was younger and still now in my twenties I suffer with social anxiety. I dropped out of uni, studying film because of it but I met the love of my life because of that and now we live together and have two cheeky house rabbits together. It still pains me a bit i never got my degree but in hindsight it was the best thing for me and i wish i could go back and tell myself it’s totally ok to do what you have to do for yourself. As much as i love film, the other biggest passion of my life is fashion and I’m slowly working up my courage to start a blog of my own. You are my favourite blogger and youtuber and such an inspiration! Keep shining you absolute star, you’re absolutely rocking it! <3 xx
Ohhh Hattie, I’m so glad you enjoyed this post and I am SO sorry that you were bullied at school! It really is the worst thing and I know that it is something that will affect us for the rest of our lives, which is so sad. The only positive thing, and something I’m actually grateful for, is how it’s made me stronger in the long run and that I know I won’t put up with that kind of thing ever again! I hope you won’t either babe!
Thank you for sharing your story, I’m SO happy to hear that it all worked out for you with your partner and your ADORABLE house rabbits… CUTE!!!
With regards to your blog, GO ON GIRLIE! You’ve got this! Please do send on your blog when you do get started with it! I’d love to have a read.
Good luck with everything babe and PLEASE stay in touch x
Ahh Megan I don’t even know where to begin with this!
This post was so beautifully written and I’m sure if your younger self could see you now she would be so damn proud of you and all the exciting things she has to come! I am an unashamed fangirl and have been for years, I’ve loved reading your posts, watching your videos and seeing how your style has changed and all the amazing things you have been able to do over the years. You are a true inspiration and absolutely the number one blogger I would love to sit down and have a coffee with one day and just chat about the industry haha!
As for that horrible comment above, don’t listen to a word she has to say. Clearly she is a very jealous individual who spends far too much of her time analysing everything you do online. Don’t let her detract from this amazing post and the amazing things you have achieved <3
LUCY! Thank you gorgeous girl, for everything, for always being so supportive and SO lovely, it means a lot! I’d bloody love to have a good natter with you over a coffee, YES PLZ GIRL!
Thanks for being so kind, it doesn’t go unnoticed babe and means a lot xo
You are an inspiration, in all senses. I really admire you ?
Oh Vera thank you so much! x
This post was so heartfelt and personal and it made me tear up a bit. I’m not in the best place mentally, at the moment, and there are many decisions to make, but this post made me feel a bit more hopeful for the future, I’m still young :’)
I’m sending a big virtual hug to you, Megan!! ♡
(And can we take a moment to appreciate how killer that jacket is???)
Ohhh Anna, sending you SO much love! I’m so glad this made you feel hopeful for the future, ’cause girl, you’ve got this! We have to have these low moments to appreciate the great things in life and I just know you’re going to come out of the other side feeling much stronger! I’m sending a big virtual hug straight back at you girlie xo
Hi Megan
What an amazing blog I love how it’s written and it might possibly be up there with my favourite yet! You should be proud of all you have achieved so far, you have done amazing and come a long way to get to where u are today. Your blogs and videos are inspirational and I love them. Dont let anyone bring you down or try and belittle you! ?xx
Ohhh Pammie thank you darling, I’m so thrilled that you enjoyed it!
Thank you so so much for your lovely comment, it truly means the world!
Lots of love xo
WOWWWWW <3 <3 <3 beautiful words 🙂 🙂 wishing you loadz of happiness and all the best things in life xxxx
Right back at you Becca babe x
Ahh this was amazing to read.
<3 I'm so glad you enjoyed it Kathryn x
Beautiful jacket 🙂 Love the look and pictures are amazing 🙂
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Megan,
Again a blog post that really touched people on a deep level. Thank you for wearing your heart on your sleeve and giving everyone that “it wasn’t just me” moment. Loved it, love the look and adore you! Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle- everyone is beautiful and unique!!
Ohhh Alana thank you so much babe! I am SO thrilled that you enjoyed the post 🙂 Lots of love girlie x
This made me all giddy and warm. Lovely post.
xx
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Well this is just the LOVELIEST post! It put ol smile on my face this morning 🙂
You should be so proud of everything Megan – you’re an absolute super star!xxx
Ohhhh Holly thank you darling, truly means sososo much! x
I loved this post, maybe a little too much as it seems we had a lot of similar adolescent experiences (e.g. urm, let’s pretend the sweeping side fringe trend never happened please!!)
Anyways, you’ve really inspired me to do my own hindsight post as it’s a great way to put things back into perspective and be grateful what you have and what you’ve achieved, which is something we all need to take a moment to do more often.
Keep doing you Megan, because your content really inspires me and many others, you’re a true gem (unlike the sad little person who left you a hate comment, how embarrassing)
Have a great week! xxxx
YES! Absolutely right a little note to your younger self, it’s really nice to reflect and to feel proud. I feel like we spend a lot of time down playing our successes and achievements and it’s such a shame. We should shout abut it from time to time and look back at how far we’ve come.
Thank you gorgeous Lucie, means so much to have you here x
Loved this post, Megan.
With regards to that particular nasty comment left earlier… People who are happy with their lives/ themselves don’t feel the need to tear down anyone else. They don’t spend all their time monitoring other people’s social media accounts or sit around bitching about everything they think is wrong in another person’s life and relationship – they’re too busy doing their own thing, enjoying their lives (like you do). Someone please tell that girl to take a valium, have a bath and, to put it bluntly, get a life for fuck’s sake.
Anyway! Have a great day. Hope you’re not too bothered by the ugliness.
x
You’re SO right Megan, your comment really made me LOL! Hilarious, you sassy lil thaaaang!
Thank you gorgeous, means a lot xo
Aww! This post was really heart-warming!
Vanessa thank you so much for reading x
Beautifully written megan and so so inspiring to the younger generation. What a wonderful role model you are ❤️
Ohhh thank you Chloe, wow that is SO kind of you and really, truly means the world! x
Beautifully written Megan, I loved it and such a coincidence that I read the Victoria Beckham version only yesterday!
Life is sometimes funny with its little games, we end up being bummed by something and later we look back and realise how much it has strengthened and grown us. I believe you are very successful and it truly inspires me. Surprisingly we were born on the same day of the same year and sometimes I can see myself in you (yay for team cancer) and oddly enough Manchester plays a big part in both of our lives. Watching your videos and reading your blog are almost therapeutic. So please continue doing what you do best, and remember that despite some (cyber)bullies you are a total inspiration!
xx
No way, how strange is that! I read that piece a year or so ago and absolutely adored it! It really inspired me to do my own.
Completely agree with how things make us stronger and better in the long run, no matter how hard they are to overcome at the time. Thank you SO much Zey, I can’t believe we were born on the same day in the same year and we have manchester in common, WOW thats amazing! But thank you so much for the gorgeous words, it truly, truly means a lot xo
SUCH a great read <3 xx
Ohhh thanks Steph, so glad you enjoyed it x
As a 22-year-old graduate who’s going through some big changes with big decisions to make, this was amazing to read.
I’m in a job that I’m not keen on but I know will open doors and this post reminded me that the best is yet to come!
Thanks for the push!
Oh Emily, I’m so glad you enjoyed this piece and that it resonated with you!
The best is certainly yet to come and things can only get better girlie, you’ve got this! xo
I absolutely loved this – it even brought a little tear to my eye!
Well done you – be proud of who you are and how far you’ve come. I’ve followed you for what feels like a very long time and have loved watching you grow. You’ve inspired me along the way and helped me find confidence in my own style, as well as a passion for writing (I’m now a writer for a magazine and online websites!) – so thank you for everything, for staying true to yourself and being a total badass xxx
Oh Ellen thank you darling, really means so much that you enjoyed this post.
Thanks also for following along on this crazy little journey, I’m so happy to hear that you’ve found the confidence in your own personal style and that you’ve bagged a fabulous job writing, wow!!! YOU GO GURRRRRRL x
Megan thank you so much for writing this post! Truly a lovely read… I’m 24 and having a bit of a quarter life crisis.. I know everybody says not to compare yourself to others but in this world we live in it’s so very hard not to! Though I might sound like a broken record, the pressures that young people face in today’s society are something I can’t always deal with, and often this can really take it’s toll on our (my!!) mental health/self esteem. That’s why it’s always a nice reminder to know everybody, no matter how successful and happy they may be now, has had their struggles and it can still all work out in the end! I love reading your posts, and I watch your videos religiously. I’ve taken a vow to myself to unfollow all bloggers who may make me feel negative (often I find whilst I enjoy keeping up with bloggers online, the effects of their constant posts can sometimes make me feel bad about myself) and truthfully you are one of the only ones that I still follow, because everything you publish online seems to have the ability to breed positivity and empowerment! Sorry for the soppiness, it’s not like me at all (honest!), I just felt I ought to let you know seeing as I love all the work you do! Thank you so much Megan and the best of luck for the future, keep it up girl!! xxxxx
Oh my god Megan, this is one of the most beautiful, honest and touching posts I’ve ever read. I nearly teared up. Keep going for it, you truly are amazing, talented and hard working <3
That is such an inspiring post! I find it actually quite interesting because while I’m 22 now, it makes me want to go back to my old self and tell her all those things but at the same time it’s also helping me grow now and accept all the flaws, learn from my younger self’s mistakes and move forward to a happier life. Thanks for the great writing, such an inspiration xx
Ahhh Jen that is so sweet, I am SO glad you could relate xo