Why hello there my loves, I hope you’re all doing well and settling into 2020 nicely.
Look at me posting on a Sunday ey, something I’m going to try and keep up with throughout 2020 as I put more love, time and effort into my beloved blog.
The topic of change has been on my mind for quite some time and I thought it would make for quite the interesting blog post, or at least I hope it will.
Change is inevitable, particular as we navigate our twenties and move into our thirties; it’s something that we all go through sometimes for the worst but often for the better.
But the statement “You’ve changed” is seen as a negative, it’s an insult that means “I preferred the old you” and it’s a statement I’ve had thrown at me a couple of times as of late and it’s something I wanted to explore a little further and to hear your thoughts on in the comments below.
Change is something we all go through and experience quite often throughout life. Whether it’s change in a personal growth sense, a change of scenery, of finances, career changes or something different entirely. Change happens and it’s important for us to embrace it.
But it’s change in a general sense that I want to discuss today as I for one have changed a heck load in the past 8 years (WTF!) since I began this little slice of internet.
I’ve changed in so many ways whether thats the transition from student to intern to my first job. A change of scenery as I moved from Huddersfield to London and then back to Manchester. A change in relationship from BF & GF to fiancé's. And changing from renting a flat to becoming homeowners.
Some pretty huge changes have happened over the past 8 years, changes I am extremely proud of and changes I’m sure many of you can relate to in some respect.
With all those life changes of course comes personal changes. My priorities are certainly different and I think it’s really rather normal for your personal preferences and taste to change whether thats with your personal style, your taste in music and/or your general outlook in life.
And you know what, thats OKAY! In fact, thats bloody great! If I was in the same place and the same person I was even just a couple of years ago let alone 4 or 8 years ago I’d be pretty depressed at the matter.
So why is the term “You’ve changed” thrown around so much in such a negative way? I can only speak from experience and my experience is being online, but if I had a pound for every time someone commented on the fact that I’ve changed or my content has changed or God forbid my hair has changed I would be quite the wealthy young gal.
Of course I’ve changed, I’m 27 now, I was 19 when I started my blog and I was at university. I’m now the owner of two successful businesses, I own my own home, have two little angel dogs to think about and I’m in a super happy and loving relationship with a wedding to plan. My priorities have of course changed; instead of going out whenever I want and staying out for as long as I want, I now have to consider my dogs, the way I would if I had children. I want to talk about interiors and the new cutlery set I got for Christmas rather than what I picked up in Primark last Saturday. And I want to share more considered purchases from time to time that may be of a higher price point which I wouldn’t have been able to afford back when I began on this blogging journey but now, after a lot of hard work I can and I’m so proud of that.
And more recently I’ve come under fire (hyperbole is my friend…) due to my style having changed. For me thats the beauty of personal style, it changes depending on my mood, depending on what I’m into and especially depending on my age.
Over the past two years I’ve become more educated on a whole host of things therefore the rainbow striped trousers that were “so on brand for me” back in 2016 but I’d only be able to style up in one or two ways are now off the cards and have been replaced with a classic pair of black tailored trousers that I can wear time and time again, I won’t get bored of and be tempted to donate to charity and yeah they might be a higher price point some times but hey, they’ll last and work well with the more purse friendly pieces I already have in my wardrobe.
So yeah you might not see me in as much clashing colours and prints as you used to, but as I’ve said I’m 27, I’m being more conscious about what I add to my wardrobe and I’m making sure that everything that is added now can be worn time and time again and isn’t just a trend piece or something that is “ Sooo Megan Ellaby”
We all change, and change is good. Let’s embrace change, particularly in each other. So long as we’re not hurting or upsetting anyone with the change in our taste in clothes, lifestyle choices and opinions then in my mind change is good, it’s part of life and totally normal! Let’s stop with the “she’s changed” mentality and instead think about how far they’ve come instead. And hey, if that fails and you simply no longer relate there's always the unfollow button.
But fear not, the rainbow trousers may be no more but the statement bags, pink jeans and glitter boots are here to stay… For now at least.