We all know that a two piece suit is a one way ticket to strong-ville. It's a no brainer of a get-up that makes one feel powerful and like they can take on the world. Heck, I've said it countless times myself and will continue to do so, as it's the one look I can always rely on to make me feel my best, most dynamic self.
And, in a world full of trials and tribulations, why would we want to feel anything else but strong? We need our outfits to be our armour against the rest of the world, a barrier to protect us from what is thrown at us and a uniform that says "I've got my shit together, I look great and yes I am strong too"
However, wear a suit each and every day and that charm is lost. The sparkle within the suit that made us feel a certain way begins to dull and it's less powerful and more powerless.
But that doesn't mean we can't feel strong wearing other items within our wardrobes. I've been thinking a lot lately about the items that make me feel my best. The pieces that I reach for when I'm wanting to kick some ass and take the day by the balls or so to speak. I'm sure we all have those key pieces that we reach for time and time again and there is absolutely no shame in that, it's actually pretty beautiful indeed.
Beautiful, that an item of clothing or a beauty favourite or even a song, can evoke such strong feelings in us, setting us up for the day ahead.
And whilst my go-to "kick ass" ensemble used to be the two-piece suit, lately I'm finding solace in more casual pieces; those everyday items that pack a punch.
Lets start from the bottom for a change shall we.
The boots, the suede platform boots that have served me well for the past FOUR years! And yes, while they have certainly seen better days with the wooden heels having severed and the tobacco suede having scuffed, they’re still by far my most favourite pair of shoes. I picked them up whilst working at ASOS in both the tobacco and the black shade and have worn them continuously in both winter and in summer ever since.
Theres something about the seventies shape, the chunky platform that gives me the height I need, especially when wearing trousers that would otherwise drag along the floor with my 5ft4 frame. I find them insanely comfortable and easy to wear and find myself reaching for them on the regular. They make me feel like the best version of myself, they allow me to walk tall, to strut down the pavements of Manchester feeling strong and powerful, how every pair of killer boots should.
I opt for these boots when I need to impress, when I need to be the business woman that I know I have in me, somewhere deep inside and thats why, despite them being long gone on the ASOS website, you’ll continue to see them and cry that they’re no longer in stock (sorry about that) ‘cause they just make me feel super duper and I can’t bare to part ways with them just yet.
Now for the jeans. It’s absolutely no secret that I’m a complete sucker for a light wash denim pair of jeans. Ideally in a straight leg cut that crops perfectly above the ankle. There’s something about this style of jean that allows me to feel on top of the world. I know that they work seamlessly with the vast majority of my wardrobe and I know that when I’m wearing them I feel at my most coolest, and yes, it is okay to say that you feel cool every now and again!
I have a vast array of denim in this style, however these cheap as chips babies from H&M have served me SO very well indeed. They’re softening with every wear and every wash and for me, they’re the perfect example of a style of jeans that are perfect for casual and dressier occasions.
A newer piece that makes me feel totally bad ass is this delicious Miu Miu Bomber Jacket, a piece I toyed with purchasing for over 6 months after spotting someone wearing it in Manchester last year. I cooed over the piece, debating whether it was something my wardrobe was missing, and when it slipped into the January sales, I took that as a sign that it most certainly was.
It’s a stereotypically masculine piece, similarly to that of the two piece suit and I think thats why it makes me feel so powerful. Wearing masculine silhouettes such as the varsity jacket (and the suit) gives me a kind of rebellious feeling, a metaphorical sticking the middle finger up to gender stereotypes if you will. And whilst we’ve been wearing what the hell we want since the 1960s, I still get a little buzz and a feeling of power when wearing something with a mannish edge.
And finally, a piece that I’m sure you all saw coming with the humble Baker Boy Cap. A piece that has been a part of my daily uniform for YEARS now and a piece I’m desperate to replace with a new hat style but can’t bring myself to part with as it makes me feel bloody great.
It gives all of my looks that little nod to the sixties whilst also comforting me through bad hair days and days when I want to hide away from the world. Wearing a hat often requires a lot of confidence but for me, it gives me confidence when I’m wearing one. It acts as a little guard against the world yet leaves me feeling strong all at the same time.
Feeling strong, powerful and like you can take on the world is a battle we all face sometimes, especially whilst trying to pave our way and find our feet in the world. Try examining your clothes and work out what makes you feel powerful because I tell you what, clothing and styling has a lot of healing power and even when you're not feeling your most confident or your most strong, half the battle is already won with an outfit that makes you feel all of those things.