Hey gorgeous people,
Im back, albeit having only missed one post, but I wanted to kick start this post by saying a huge thank you to you all!
Thank you for understanding and for all the truly gorgeous comments on my last post; It means the world to learn how understanding you are and how you can totally relate to the way I feel. I wrote that post on a dreary Monday morning in January and whilst it felt somewhat cathartic to get everything off my chest and out into the world, my week continued to be somewhat dreary and what I like to call a non-starter of a week.
George was feeling it too, we both struggled to find our creative mojo and to find the motivation and drive to work, to create and to do anything other than paint our kitchen... Which by the way is a delicious burnt orange shade, I can't wait for you lot to see it, I just know you colour-loving babes are gonna love it!
But anyhoo, as I shared how I was feeling a little out of the loop just last week, and with it being Blue Monday just yesterday it got me thinking about ways in which I could shake that feeling and bring myself back into the loop as such.
And in true meganellaby.com style, I thought I'd share it all with you wonderful bunch, in case like me you're feeling a little bit lost this new year and are looking to get back into the loop yourself. Feel free to read on, or perhaps bookmark this post for when you're next feeling a little lost, I know I'll be doing the same, because sometimes we just need to give ourselves a good talking to, a virtual kick up the backside to shake those blues once and for all.
First up, a beautiful reader named Hannah made a great point as to why I may be feeling out of the loop, something that struck a chord with me and forced me to rethink the way in which I was working.
I moved out of the city centre of my beloved Manchester late last year. We threw ourselves into doing up our home, shopping and of course vlogging our way through December. We got the puppies and worked hard at training, loving and working with them to be the two kind, playful, well behaved and loving puppies that we have today, almost two months down the line.
We were in real nesting mode and to some degree we still are.
I LOVE being at home, I'm SO proud of the house we own and it's really getting their with the much needed Megan and George stamp throughout each and every room. I've always been a home-bird, but nesting mode really, truly set in and I very rarely ventured out of the house. I was enjoying working from my all new office and was scared to leave the puppies on their own for longer than an hour or so.
The new year came around and I was still nesting, but feeling a little out of the loop with the whole blogging world, fashion world and everything in-between.
Hannah made a point in the comments of my last post explaining how she felt the same when she left the city centre. Also a resident of Manchester, she explained how moving from the centre made her feel a little lost, similarly to how I'm feeling now. She forced herself into the centre as much as possible, walking through the Northern Quarter on her lunch break and hanging with friends after work. It wasn't long until she had her mojo back, something I'm desperate to get back myself.
I've become SO comfortable and really quite happy being at home that I've barely ventured into Manchester, apart from my once a week personal training session, of which I'm desperate to get back home to my lil pups straight after. I'm going to make a conscious decision to head into town for a couple of hours twice a week as I really truly think that Hannah has hit the nail on the head with her comment. I love Manchester and city life in general, it's something that really, truly inspires me so I reckon with a twice-weekly dose of city vibes I'll be back to my normal self in no time. Thanks Hannah, you babe you!
This past week has been a bit of a lazy one I must admit.
With both George and I feeling the same way and dealing with the January Blues at once we've revelled in staying in bed for an extra hour or two every day. We've made excuses (such as painting the kitchen) to put off replying to emails and we've just basically given ourselves a break.
This, I feel is key to reconnecting with yourself again.
In the past I've always felt guilty for taking time away from work. I've felt inadequate when seeing other girls in my field uploading and posting every other day and I've given myself a hard time for not doing the same when deep down I know that doesn't work for me. I woke up on Monday feeling disconnected, so I just let that be. I still worked don't get me wrong, but I didn't force it and that is the key learning from this little off-spell.
You can't force these things to be better, you've simply gotta roll with it and give yourself some time to come out of the other side. Rather than sitting at my desk and putting pressure on myself to come up with an idea, I had a lie in, stayed in my pyjamas, played with the puppies and cleaned the house from top to bottom and here I am today (Friday) full of words and feeling a heck load more motivated than I did yesterday. And whilst I know not all of us can simply take the day off, I'm frankly saying don't force it, just roll with the punches and just let it be. Be kind to yourself and let yourself be down in the dumps for a day or two, it's totally normal (particularly at this time of year)
Everyone is different and everyone will have their down days at different times, yours is just happening right now. Don't look to other people and compare your mood to theirs as often they'll leave you feeling worse about yourself. Just do you and ride the wave, you'll come out the other side in a day or two feeling like a brand new you I promise. And if you don't, hey, thats okay too; just talk to someone, we're all ears!
Sometimes all we need to do to get ourselves out of a downer is to wear something rather fabulous indeed!
I created a video last week, despite my funk, about reworking your party wear pieces for right now and that really did get my creative styling juices flowing! Sparkles, sequins and pretty colours are a sure-fired way to make you feel better, trust me, this one is tried and tested.
We spend SO much money on party pieces, only to wear them once and have them gathering dust at the back of our wardrobes. I'm challenging you to bring out the sequin party dress that you wore to your works do, and to style it up for a casual day out in January. Re-working pieces in this way leaves us feeling less guilty for the super HIGH cost-per-wear but also, as previously mentioned, anything that sparkles is always a good idea for brightening our own sparkle! Take this look for example, these trousers were quite the splurge piece and I wore them with a V sexy one shouldered lace number (see this post here to jog your memory) They're quite honestly the most comfortable trousers known to man and I was DESPERATE to wear them again. Throw in some knit wear, the best trainers I have ever seen c/o Superga and Charlotte Simone, the softest faux fur coat by Tara Jarmon and a complimenting pink beret and your'e onto a winter winner!
Also clothes related, get your little booty to the shops and TREAT YO'SELF! It's true what they say about a good ole bit of retail therapy working wonders for the soul, especially at this time of the year.
I've hit the sales HARD this January and I don't think it's any coincidence that I've also had a bad case of the January Blues. Treating myself to new clothes, shoes and bags makes me happy, I know that, so it's always a no brainer for me when trying to cheer myself up.
I've bought some absolute corkers, all of which you'll be seeing on the blog soon and in Wednesday's video (or Sunday's depending how I feel this week), so stay tuned for that.
Treat yourself to something you've always dreamed of. Whether thats a pair of shoes, a handbag, a holiday or simply a large glass of wine, doing more of what makes you happy and spoiling yourself from time to time is all we need to sort ourselves out.
When you're feeling a little down in the dumps and out of the loop, just remember that this won't last. This feeling of being a bit lost is only temporary and all it takes is a little something to brighten your mood. The above points along with receiving a bout of good news was all I needed to come out of the other side a happier person... FINALLY!!! I was beginning to worry if I'd ever cheer the F up!?
On Friday morning as I was begrudgingly heading to the gym, I received a phone call that said I was going to be used in a huge L'Oreal television campaign... I mean, once I'd got over the initial shock and the tears had stopped, I knew that this was the news I was waiting for to kick start my year in a positive way.
So with that, just know that the good news will come, however big or small; something that will shake you up and bring your out from under the January Blues for good this time!
And I'm here, on the other side feeling much more chirpier and finishing off the blogpost I started on Friday, today, on Monday morning. And even though I wasn't quite there with the 6am start (I snoozed my alarm for 90 minutes FFS) and my get-up-and-go hasn't quite returned just yet, I'm feeling much better after a week of looking after myself. I took my foot off the gas, just for a week or so and gave myself some slack. I've had an awesome couple of years but it's okay to feel a little lost and out of it sometimes. But, I think I'm back on track (PLEASE!?) and ready and raring to go, who's with me?